Have you ever had a relationship that felt like it was “in a rut?”  Maybe the person is a close friend, a parent, a boss or an employee and their just seems to be some distance…or frustration…or hurt.

It’s easy in these situations to start the blame game.  You think of all of the things that you have done for that person and lament why they have pulled away.  If you feel yourself heading down this road, do two things instead.  (Take responsibility for everything as I said before). 

1)  Honestly ask yourself, “What could I have done differently?”  By being introspective and honest you might find the real reason for the frustration.

2)  Then pro-actively ask, “What can I do now to make it better?”  You can’t turn back time, so live in the present.

By focusing on your own actions you might be able to make the future better for both of you.