If you are going to try anything worthwhile in life, there will be stumbles. If you are really reaching, there are going to be days that you feel like someone kicked you in the gut. It’s part of the journey. Don’t get me wrong, you SHOULD work toward your goal. But you do need to know that it is not going to be all “rainbows and unicorns” along the way. There will be setbacks. There will be challenges.
It’s important to know that in advance. That way, they don’t surprise you (more than they should) during the journey. It’s also nice to know, “it’s not just me.” Tough things happen to good people on their way to success.
So what do you do on those days? What do you do when you know you have a long way to go…but you don’t feel like taking the next step?
On these days it’s really critical to have a great support system in place. That support system should consist of more than one person. That way, if they are having a tough day, you have other people for support! In addition, I find it’s good to have more than more personality to lift me up. You might need the:
The Listener: This person will just let you vent, talk out ideas, develop your thoughts out loud. They might be the person that asks insightful questions to keep you going. Or they might be the person who “pushes back” on your idea to make you really think it through.
The Supporter: This is the person that has your back…no matter what. You don’t need a lot of these folks (they can be a crutch). But it’s good to have at least one. Think…Mom.
The Encourager: This role should be filled by the “Captain Positive” in your life. You will hear things like “you got this” from this person. Sometimes you need a dose of this just to get you to the next step.
The Kick in the Ass-er: And yes you need someone who will give you the tough love. You need that person that holds you accountable. This role will say “You said you were going to call X. Why haven’t you?” Or they might be the one that pushes and says, “It’s ok…but you can do better.” You may not want to hear it all the time…but its essential that you do.
Some people can fill all these roles at different times. But make sure you have each of these positions filled…and continue to fill them on the journey.
Then, in a moment of strength, be these for someone else too.
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