Dear Sky and Jade,
I love you both. You are both good girls that have the ability and (I think) desire to make the right choices. And you know how I feel about choices! You have heard me–again and again–say that life is all about choices. If you make good choices, you will have a good life. The opposite, of course, is true as well.
But sometimes things happen TO you. These are the things in life that you have no control over. You did not plan them. You did not cause them. They might be as simple as the weather, or as frustrating as a teacher or a parent handing down an unexpected assignment. But whatever they are, you still have a choice.
There is a space between what happens TO you, and your reaction that is all yours. You control that space. And by controlling that space, you control your reaction.
So instead of simply reacting (and often flying off half-cocked), take a breath. Take some time between the action and your reaction. Sleep on it if you can.
Almost always, you will be glad you did.